So first and foremost, this blog is not about those kinds of male dancers. And also, I need to say that I am a straight, married man completely outside the traditional stereotype of male dancers. I am simply a guy in his 30s that has embarked on a quest to become a good ballroom dancer and wish to share those experiences with anyone interested in reading it. I started this blog to give a voice to this very special journey and discuss the very interesting (albeit frustrating) process.
When I started this quest, it was simply as a favor to my wife. She has loved dancing from a very young age. She danced, taught, and has loved it for a very long time. When her birthday rolled around last year, I thought dance lessons would be a great present for her and one that we can both enjoy together. Now, to know me is to know that not only have I never been a really good dancer, but the hell of adolescence has a way of making men of all ages fear every aspect of dance and I am no exception. There are a number of stories there that I will explore in future articles since it really is the cornerstone of my experiences thus far, but we’ll table it for now. Let me just say that although we started dancing as a grand gesture to my beautiful wife, it has taken on a whole new personal meaning for me. I don’t know if it’s to battle past fears or that this is bar none the hardest thing I’ve ever tried to do, but it has become the one thing that I have to do and eventually do well.
So although I won’t reveal which studio where I’m taking lessons, I will say that we decided on Arthur Murray. I understand there are various viewpoints on Arthur Murray and their teaching style, but I will say that at least this one studio is perfect for me and my wife. Our instructor is also PERFECT for me. Without her, I would have stopped a long time ago.
If you’re still reading, you have probably gotten by now that I intend for this blog to be nothing if not brutally honest. I know there are other guys out there that feel the same way I do and need not only a place of education about technique and musicality, but also the up and down emotional roller coaster that is learning to become a male dancer.